DISCUSSION The initial task was to answer the following: What parenting style did your parents or caregivers use when raising you? How do you think it impacted your life? Would you choose to parent in the same style that your parents or caregivers did? In this discussion, you can use Baumrind's parenting style, Lemaster and Defrain's, or a mix of the two

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DISCUSSION

The initial task was to answer the following: What parenting style did your parents or caregivers use when raising you? How do you think it impacted your life? Would you choose to parent in the same style that your parents or caregivers did? In this discussion, you can use Baumrind's parenting style, Lemaster and Defrain's, or a mix of the two.

 

What must be done now is to respond to 2 people with a minimum of 100 w0rds. What would you reply to him?

 

Person 1 (Nicola)	Answer:
This is a really difficult question for me as it is something that I grapple with almost daily and the reason I am so interested in psychology.   Each of my parents had a different idea of what being a parent meant and neither of them took it too seriously.  They both cared for myself and my sibling, they showed us love, we had rules to follow and when we didn't follow them there would be trouble.  They were somewhat demonstrative.  They let us find our own way, maybe too much so.   Sometimes my mom was the pal, trying to be a friend, shopping with us and hanging out with us, going to the movies. The reason for this was because my Dad was away a lot, at least fifty percent of the time.  The loneliness is likely why Mom sometimes parented as described in the Pal method of parenting.  At other times my Mom prescribed the police officer / drill sergeant model of parenting.  It was often my Mom's way or the highway as they say.  I had to be very obedient, never talk back and keep overly emotional feelings to myself, No Drama!  Being seen to be good seemed like the number one priority.   I struggled with decision making for a long time, and always needed a partner to prop me up.  I feel I am finally growing up!  Feeling confident and making good decisions, like getting a degree - finally.   I have children of my own, 17 and 22, I believe I try to use the authoritative method of parenting.  My husband prefers the authoritarian method of parenting.  This has caused a lot of conflict in our relationship, but we forge ahead.  Our boys seem to be doing quite well, with some struggles along the way.   I think that when both parents are on the same page in a parenting style it is the most advantageous to the child.  This is something couples should discuss before starting a family.
Person 2 (Carlos)	Answer:
In terms of how my parents raised me, I am pleased and happy. As my parents are originally from Mexico, I grew up in an old-school Mexican household. My parents raised me in a traditional Catholic family. I was raised by strict but loving parents. No matter what the topic was, my parents always told us we could trust them. Even though we were able to talk to our parents about anything, they firmly reminded us that they were not our friends and that disrespect is never acceptable. We were taught to be kind to everyone, respectful, not judge others, respect our elders, and say, "excuse me," and "thank you." If I had to choose a parenting style, I guess I would choose Baumrind's police officer/drill sergeant style. In my family, my parents were always in charge and in control. Though we communicated our ideas and concerns regarding school, food, etc., the final decision was made by my parents. We were always pushed by our parents to be the best version of ourselves. While I was a child, I didn't understand or appreciate this method, but as an adult, I appreciate and am grateful for it. If I ever have kids, I'll raise them exactly the way my parents raised me and my siblings.