What is your stand about Humans are likely to engage in sexual activities to satisfy sexual urges.

The desire to have sex is very normal and a healthy state of mind. Infact if one did not have, then that would be abnormal. If you never felt hungry, you'd need to go to a physician. Because that is not healthy and normal. When we feel hungry we eat and satiate our hunger. When we feel thirsty we drink water and quench our thirst. Simple. But now comes the issue, what about if our hunger and thirst does not subside even after having food and water ? Then you need medical assistance.

One is normal libido another is addiction. First I'd like to talk of normal libido. If there is no apparent solution to fulfill the desire of sex as of now, then one should know the art of restraining oneself....I call it an art because art has to perfected and mastered by practicing and working upon. Once you have mastered this art of restraining then you'd be able to wait for a considerable time.

One is to convert the lust into emotion. Being in a social circle and dealing with people sympathetically. That too helps you to maintain your composure and keep mind engaged positively.

Choose a mentor, a person whom you admire to make a source of inspiration and letting mind get anchored.

Second is eating nutritive but letting yourself be slightly hungry and eating to the full.That controls libido.

Third is doing vigorous exercises like running, swimming, etc

Taking cold shower.

Talking to yourself reassuringly and writing a diary to pen up positive thoughts so that you remain steadfast and inspired without faltering.

These were the suggestions in case of having a normal libido and it is just to keep the desire in limits and being able to carry along with this desire. As said that desire is subconsciously a part of psychological makeup. So if you insist on having to not have that desire is like going against your own instincts which will backlash and will not work.

keep yourself afloat with morality and you will enjoy sex more with your spouse.

So just try to get a legal partner in the form of marriage and fulfill that desire. Meanwhile you may go and practice those suggestions mentioned in handling and regulating the desire.

This is the conclusion out of my years of struggling in my adolescence and still now.

In all this, try to think of sexual union as beautiful, worth cherishing gift out of nature which needs to be handled responsibly. It's sanctity is in it secrecy and privacy. It needs to be taken with dignity and pride and not cheap referrals.

Also appreciate the fact and realized that the spouses are having sex periodically at different intervals and so can you when your time comes. Be happy for others and be glad for them and so will you be at peace also.

ADDITIONAL INFORMATION:

Stop seeing sex as a getting horny and laid phenomenon. Start believing that sex is not an entirely pleasure seeking thing; it is more of a physio-psychological bonding.

If you're feeling that horny, resort to masturbation or something else of that sort. Casual/Free sex may appeal to you, but it doesn't exactly works the way it looks. Most of the people out there are not willing to get laid, be it a boy or a girl. Every sensible person wants to build a strong relationship and deep bonding before s/he escalates into sex.

If you're a frequent porn watcher, get the hell away from it, or atleast abandon the way in which they portray sex. If there's a thing called fiction, porn tops the list. The over sensual and brutal way sex is depicted in pornography makes many people start looking at sex as an entirely pleasure seeking act. Women are not pieces of meat with pretty pussies and mean butt holes : stop seeing them as one. And if you can't control those thoughts, maybe it's time for a psych consult.

Keep yourself busy, focus on your goals and realize your responsibilities. Porn and masturbation is okay only as far as it doesn't alter your perception of real life and sex: don't get addicted to the either of the two.

Don't be in a hurry to get laid. Wait for the perfect time to come and once you're there, you'll feel glad that you so patiently waited for it. Discard all those feelings about women and sex that you mentioned. Lead a healthy, busy and a prosperous life.