Title: The Social Mirror

Purpose: To identify how others perceptions and views have affected and shaped our personalities, identities and self-image.

Resources: This essay is a reflection exercise.

Activity Instructions:

To recognize the potential inaccuracy or incompetence of the “social mirror,” or others’ opinions of you as a person, take a moment to reflect on how the social mirror has affected you. Reflect back on all aspects of your life: personal (dealing with family and friends, roommates, neighbors, significant others), academic (teachers, coaches, classmates), and professional (bosses, co-workers, subordinates, mentors) to examine what influence others have had on your self-image and other areas of importance to you (community, religion, sports, etc.).

Answer the questions below in comprehensive, complete sentences. Do not provide brief answers. Instead, compose at least 4-5 full sentences (i.e., a full paragraph) that answer each of the posed thought-provoking discussions.

1. What would others say about you that is generally positive?

2. What “constructive suggestions” would others offer to help you improve or change?

3. What do you most like about yourself?

4. What do you most dislike in yourself and would like to change?

5. What beliefs to you have about yourself that limit you?

6. How might these beliefs have been created or influenced by your social mirror?

7. Since it is possible – perhaps even likely – that these weaknesses or limitations are more imagined than real, what could you do to turn them into strengths?

8. Who could help you make these changes or give you feedback about your progress?

9. Were any questions more difficult to complete than others? Which ones and why?

10. What did you learn about yourself in this exercise?

Answer:

1.The opinion of others towards in a positive aspect is that I hold patience towards the task aloted.It brings out an optimistic impact that I listen to others,act wisely in difficult situations, motivate others especially peer groups,that builds my confidence levels in fulfilling a particular task. The other positive approach is my helping and caring nature towards all whoever is needed for.

2.Thr constructive suggestions that are provided by others to me are keep smiling always,be pleasant minded don't reflect the tensed expression on your face,spend the resources wisely, avoid delay in decision making process,improve your communication skills in other languages.

3. In myself i mostly found of the way I approach towards others,my dressing style,my respect towards elders, my analytical thinking skills towards a particular problem and finding the apt solutions, spontaneous actions in emergency situations.

4. The most dislike aspect in my self is my anger as I usually shout on others when the task is not completed within the given time frame. I would like to change this drawback by taking time to analyse the causes for the delay in work,find out the other way to accomplish the required the task.

5.The belief that I hold to the limit is my easily be living in other words. Whatever the others sau we should not simply believe. After listening patiently try to analyze the required actions and then believe in what we require.

6. These beliefs have made a stronger influence part in my social mirror as it makes to analyse what is right in the society,how to behave towards one self in the society, improves my analytical solution finding to any problem of others.

7. As my weakness can be made into my strengths .As l show anger towards i can get rid of that by practicing meditation that helps to relax your mind from the unwanted tensions and pressures.I can make my communication pattern to the limit which helps to interact with others who are essential towards help.

8.The above changes made to turn into better communicator,better resource allocator, good listener,patience handler,more optimistic,helping others who are needy for, controlling my anger in differnt situations.All these changes made me to turn myself as a most responsible citizen to the society.

9.none of the questions are difficult as all the question reflects the individual social image.

10.Through this exercise i have identified the strengths and weaknesses of myself and also paved the way to fetch the available opportunities . By utilizing the strengths and availing the opportunity i have reduced with weakness and overcomes with the threats